It has been a very long while since I have actually sat down to do this. So I thought I would do a quick, or maybe not-so-quick, little post as to why I have been absent from the inter-webs here.
First, and foremost, I dislike sitting at the computer, and I am totally old school, so I have to sit at my desk with PC in front of me to blog etc. My quest for more movement and outdoor time this past year was a success, and with that revealed the fact that being in front of a computer doesn’t give me the warm and fuzzies. But hey, sometimes, I feel the need to get out of my brain all of the things that have been swirling around in there for the past year!
Secondly, my husband lost his job this past May, and it was quite a roller coaster ride from that point on. Can you say, “set life on autopilot and merely survive mode”! We made it through the unemployment filing fiasco, where we went without a paycheck for 4 weeks, yup, that was doozy. And then we floundered our way through figuring out health insurance for us, and our 2 children. After that, we were able to keep our composure for the rest of the year, and try to make the most of having my husband around a bit more, although he kept himself busy most of the time, and we even got away for little inexpensive road trips here and there.
So now, as 2018 is a month in, he has found a new job, and has great things in his future with a new job. Phew!!
2017 was a great learning year. Learning that we need to be more prepared for such disaster’s in life. Learning that we need to enjoy the time that we have with one another, when we have it. Learning that there is always good that comes from the bad. Learning that the universe has a plan, and it truly happens just as it was intended to happen, no matter how scary, or uncomfortable, or downright gut wrenching it may be!
So as the former year has brought forth new things for our family, it has also brought to light a newer version of myself. I am, at 42, more authentically Jody, than I have ever been. I am calling 2018 “the year of NO”. Not in a negative way, but in a take full control of my life sort of way.
When I am asked to do things that I don’t want to do, but somehow feel obliged to do…I say NO. When I have one little morning carved out for myself to do the things that I want to do, and am asked to do this or that, I say NO. It’s not about being mean, or uncooperative, or dare I say bitchy. It’s purely about self-preservation!
In 2017, I realized that I have spent my life doing things that people wanted me to do in fear of disappointing them, leaving nothing left for myself in return. Well, that is all over. And I say hallelujah to that!
I have really tuned into the peace that I feel when I am moving in nature, and it really has been quite therapeutic for me. When I am unable to get out there, I have less sense of myself, so that is a big focus for me this year.
I will be incorporating this into my health coaching practice as well.
After going for a 18 degree, icy, winter hike with a dear friend of mine recently, it became clear. She and I chatted for the entire time that we hiked for 2 miles in the sun and cold. It was raw, honest, and very cathartic. I was able to move things from the back of my mind to the front more readily, by moving while talking. No uneasy shifting in seats. No eyes wandering to other places in the room. Fully invested in conversation and idea. Brilliant!
My addition to my practice is the idea of Movement-centric Consults and Sessions. Holy smokes, I can’t believe it took me this long to figure this out. Getting out into nature and walking with clients, and potential clients, will accomplish so many things for both myself and the individual.
One of the biggest roadblocks for clients when I ask about movement is not having the time. Well, walking with me while we go through our sessions with take care of that, even if it’s just for that one hour. They will also have great blood flow, and fresh oxygenated blood to the brain, to better move thoughts forward. It will also increase dopamine in each of us, making everyone happy and clear. And also, with my self preservation priority, this will help me work with folks who are willing to put in the work, commit to the process, and are more in direct line with my way of thinking. The coach client bond will be that much stronger, and that thrills me!
I am sure that there is more that will reveal itself in regards to this, but for now, this is a perfect reboot for me!